Special People Need to KNOW They are Special

 “Family means too much, Friends are too valuable, And life is too short, to put-off sharing with people, how much they really mean to you.” (unknown) 

My Dad has always told me: “If you’ve got something to say to someone, say it”. He’s a straight shooter, and people in his life have a pretty good idea how he feels about them.  Most enjoy it. Some are at the wrong end of his emotional rainbow (they likely earned it).

My family is about as close as a family can be. We’ve got our issues and occasional drama, like anyone else, but we are tight.

As for my Dad and I…

Everyone has a father. Many people are lucky enough to have a ‘Dad’. I am one of the luckiest of souls who has a best friend in his Dad. He and I have been calling each other ‘Bud’ since I was about fourteen (I am now just north of forty).

He knows how I feel, and I know how he feels, and that is a good thing.

What was designed as a routine heart catheterization yesterday morning quickly became an emergency double-bypass, as he was rushed from one hospital to the one across town. Some scary moments in the last 24 hours…

He’ll spend the next day or two in a fog of medications as he tries to comprehend what the heck happened to him.

Sitting in the ICU waiting room, I saw other families awaiting news on their loved ones. Some made it, some did not. It was sad to hear, from one woman, that her sister was driving from Maryland to see their relative, but she did not make it in time. I hope she does not have regrets. I hope she has been open and honest all her life, and that the family member knew how she felt.

Me? I have no regrets.  My Dad, as well as my family and friends, all know how I feel.

Do your family and friends know how special they are to you?

If not, would you be willing to pick up the phone this weekend to share a word or two? It doesn’t have to be a performance worthy of an Oscar for ‘Best Dramatic Moment in a Family Situation’. Perhaps you could send a ‘Because You’re Special’ card or e-mail, leave a voice-mail, or meet for lunch.

The holidays are upon us, a perfect time to share your love and kindness with others.

Life is too short to live with regrets, and we don’t always get a second chance to say things.

There is not always a tomorrow.

But there is a TODAY.

If you have stuck with me for this entire message, there is something very good about you. 

You are special.

I just want you to know that.



  1. Great stuff. I don’t know why some people feel the need to do this “just” at Christmas time. People need to say these things daily. I remember hearing many people say that they learned a VALUABLE lesson when 9/11 happened — to be IN the moment.

    BE IN THE MOMENT! You won’t regret it!

    Bob Roza

  2. Nicely said….
    I can identify with the “best friend” (in your Dad) not for me, but for my son Dylan and his Dad Steve.
    Steve has been calling Dylan “Pal” since he was in my womb. And just the other day Dylan (who is a 15 year old boy), told me he considers his dad his best friend.
    It’s a beautiful thing!
    Thanks for sharing that post. I felt the love and admiration you have for your dad in your writing.
    Merry Christmas Steve!

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