Steve Gamlin

Visualization + Daily Action​ = SUCCESS.

Too many people say: “If you can see it, you can be it!”

 That may be technically right, but I prefer to tack on this addendum (although it will pretty much take it beyond the character allotment for a bumper sticker:“If you can see it, great…now get off your butt and MAKE IT HAPPEN”.

 How do I know this is a difference-maker?

 I was one of those people who sat around dreaming up an awesome life…and not doing a damn thing about it.

 My early Vision Boards were littered with things that “might be cool to have” but did not inspire me enough to get off my butt and MAKE THEM HAPPEN.

 As a result, I felt like more of a worthless turd than when I started.

 The day that I took a spin on an old wooden roller coaster is the day that all changed.

That’s when I realized that having goals can be great, but that we need to create desired outcomes (in all areas of our lives) which motivate us to wake up every day and put in the effort to CLICK CLICK CLICK closer to the top of that first hill (after which we get to enjoy the fruits of our labors, powered by momentum).

 What we also need to do is surround ourselves with the right people who can educate, inform (or even just scream along and share the joy with us), the most enriching resources and a focused, deliberate mind.

 During a recent Vision Board coaching session with Jennifer (one of my incredible clients), I realized she was the perfect LIVING EXAMPLE of this process!

 How is Jennifer doing it? Click on the video above to hear how she is ROCKING her way to one of her biggest goals, one CLICK at a time.

 ‘Seeing’ something is good, but may not be enough to make it happen.

 Sometimes you need to put stickers in your shower, like Jennifer did.

 She’s a ROCK STAR at this, and you can learn from her…like I did.

 Look out, Serengeti…here she comes!

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Candles and Kindness: Kerri’s Birthday Giving Mission!

My friend Kerri Sellers is a Goddess.

No, this does not mean she is a celestial being with a mailing address somewhere on Mount Olympus.

I’m pretty sure she lives in Massachusetts.

Being a Goddess is actually part of her job title.

Kerri is part of the amazing team of women (Goddesses) and men (Adoni) who populate the Athena’s Home Novelties company, a group of people with HUGE hearts based in America’s tiny state of Rhode Island (led by an amazing force for good, Mother Goddess Jennifer Jolicouer).

They just happen to be my BIGGEST speaking client (every January I lead my “Engaging Your WHY/Vision Board” event for their entire team, nationwide).

For her recent 45th birthday, Kerri opened her heart, and her social media pages (at the urging of her equally-awesome husband Aaron), to create a TIDAL WAVE of kindness, generosity and joy.

She called it #Kerris45Wishes…and it was amazing.

Far from making it all about herself, Kerri spent the day not only committing acts of kindness, but encouraging others to please do so…and post them on her social media pages.

Ideas were flying fast and furious, and I was tremendously honored that she tagged me with an idea I’d given her (which I learned from a grocery checkout clerk): putting quarters on gumball machines as a surprise for kids!

She also left quarters on the pony ride outside the store, and a small baggie of them at the laundromat, just in case someone needed a little extra drying time.

Here’s the most beautiful part of her birthday giving mission: friends and family all across the country were going out and intentionally sharing kindness on her behalf, tagging their posts with #Kerris45Wishes.

It was mind-blowing. It was joyful. And it was very, very REAL.

So many people see things like this happening and are so quick to say: “Kindness should be done anonymously and what she is doing is bragging, and it’s wrong.”

Here’s my view on that response.

The news and media outlets spend most of their days (and ours) sharing stories of the WORST that society has to offer.

I wish they would keep THAT to themselves.

I think it is helpful (and hopeful) to hear the GOOD THINGS that are happening in our communities which are JUST AS REAL as the bad.

Now, when people do these things and trumpet them in the news as a political ploy or to overcome something stupid scandal they caused, just to rebuild their reputations…that is different.

What Kerri did with her birthday was wave her kindness flag high and let it snap in the wind loudly enough for people to hear the battle-cry and take part in the celebration.

I read through many of the posts on her page, people sharing what she had inspired them to do.

They included:

  • a donation to the Red Sox Foundations’s Jimmy Fund
  • adding children’s books to a ‘Little Free Library’
  • giving a ride to someone who needed one
  • buying sidewalk chalk for a favorite neighborhood kid
  • posting a beautiful sunset photo to make a friend smile
  • paying for the lunch of a stranger

So, what simple act of kindness could YOU commit today?

If you really have it in your heart to do so, you can find a way…even ones that cost absolutely nothing (hold a door, call a friend to say hello, make someone smile).

Here’s how I see it: somewhere in the world today, it is somebody’s birthday.

Following Kerri’s lead, we can all commit a little kindness to honor those people.

Remember: the GOOD is just as real as the BAD.

Let’s make the GOOD noise even louder, shall we?

Thank you Kerri!

BONUS VIDEO: Are YOU ‘Priming the Pump’ for kindness, like Kerri is?
CLICK HERE to view.  

Colby’s Shovel BEATS the Storm!

Houston, we have a problem: Colby’s snowblower is broken.

Who is Colby?

Colby is a young man of thirteen who lives next door to my Mother-in-law (Keeper of Super Teddy).

After every storm so far this Winter this young man has been there in her driveway with his snowblower, as soon as the flakes stopped flying, to erase all the white fury that Mother Nature dished out.

Yesterday, however, he had bad news.

His snowblower was broken.

Now, when Ma Nature drops more than 12-inches of snow in your yard, and you only have about 9-inches of dog…you have a problem.

I won’t say that Super Teddy is spoiled, but he’s got a “Pee & Poop Path’ that circumnavigates the back yard like he’s running a marathon!

Plus, Teddy’s path always gets done BEFORE the driveway…it just does.

That tiny bladder can’t hold out forever, people.

When Tina’s mom called to tell me about Colby’s setback, I offered to come over and use our snowblower (can be a bit temperamental, but usually does the job) to finish.

When I arrived, anticipating the worst, I was pleasantly surprised.

Instead of shrugging off his duties and blaming the snowblower, this kid grabbed a shovel and busted his butt all the way around that yard so that Super Teddy could do his business!

For all the bashing that this younger generation gets on laziness and lack of ambition (some of whom truly deserve it), Colby just raised the bar.

My first comment to Tina’s mom: “That’s some good parenting in action, right there”.

Colby, thank you buddy!

Your snowblower may have broken down, but YOU didn’t.

You picked up a shovel and did the job you said you would do, giving Mother Nature the finger in the process (MY words not yours, I don’t want you to get in trouble for having a dirty mouth, ha ha).

As an adult, you just taught ME a lesson.

Some days we show up to work and not all of our tools are there to bail us out.

What we need to remember is to simply grab the best resources available to us, put our backs to it, and keep on shoveling through the mess.

Business professionals and entrepreneurs…are you hearing the lesson?

It’s there, and I just took it like a snowball to the face.

Well done, young man!

Tell Your Turkeys to Go STUFF Themselves!

When you sit down at Thanksgiving dinner, are there certain foods you don’t like?

For me, it’s cranberry sauce from a can.

I don’t dig the tartness of cranberries, and the ribbed reminder of the inside of the can looks odd…and makes those of us who watched “Beavis & Butthead” giggle.

Consequently, I make sure the plate of cranberry sauce stays far away from my place setting at the Turkey Day dinner.

It’s a pretty simple concept: if there is something you don’t care to be around, don’t keep it around you.

The same goes for PEOPLE in our lives whom we wish to not have near us.

Maybe they are tart.

Maybe they are distasteful.

Heck, maybe they’re ribbed.

Bottom line: if you don’t want to be near them…don’t be (even if it simply means you don’t let them drag you down emotionally).

If I were to ask: “Who is the most negative, toxic person in your life right now?”…would a name or a face come to mind?

Was this the same person you would have envisioned a year ago, had I asked you then?

If so, why is that person still allowed to be this close to you, making you miserable?

It could be a client, a family member or just a hanger-on who hasn’t been booted out of your orbit…yet.

It’s not an easy conversation. Many people who try to be nice and ‘like to be liked’ have a tough time confronting toxicity. It has always been a challenge for me.

Bottom line comes down to two words: HONOR YOURSELF.

We’re in the home stretch of yet another year.

Life rolls on and, as Pink Floyd put it so bluntly, we find ourselves “shorter of breath and one day closer to death”.

Got some turkeys in YOUR life?

Maybe it’s time to shuffle the line-up around the table at which you give your thanks.

Are there a few turkeys who need to “Stuff it” and be excused from YOUR table?

What I have discovered over the years is this: when you make room at your table, you’re actually making room for better to take their seats.

Here’s to YOUR celebration of thanks this year!!

May you enjoy great company, celebrate happy memories, engage in positive conversations and fill your face with nothing but delicious goodness.

What am I thankful for this year?

You.

Veterans Day and the Peanut Butter Cup!

Go ahead…talk to strangers.

Whenever Tina and I go out, whether it’s to the High Street Farmhouse (our favorite local restaurant) or somewhere on the opposite coast, one of two questions consistently comes up:

1) “Can we go ANYWHERE without you knowing someone?”

2) “How do you manage to make a new friend everywhere we go?”

Bottom line: I get around, in a good way…and I love meeting interesting people.

Whether it’s smiling at people as I walk past, committing even the simplest acts of kindness (such as holding a door open) or cracking jokes to relieve the tension of a nervous flier, it just comes easy to me.

I get that from my Dad, who can (and will) strike up a conversation with total strangers, often with laughter ensuing.

Last Friday was no exception.

While waiting to board my plane for the first of two flights which would ultimately deliver me to Orlando, I saw ‘her’.

Being Veterans Day, she stuck out as someone to whom I wished to say “Thank you for your service”.

Her hat indicated she’d served in Iraq, and her leather vest was covered in patches and pins of various deployments and her continued loyalty to veterans groups.

During the first flight to DC, I enjoyed an article in the December issue of Success Magazine. It’s author, Jeff Vrabel, had gone into ‘undercover mode’ as an Uber driver in and around Indianapolis. Not one for a lot of small talk himself, he wanted to test-drive the experience to see what he could learn.

In the end, he walked away with several sizable chunks of life lessons, advice and experiences that he never would have gotten hiding in the shadows.

Interesting.

About 10 minutes into a 2-hour layover, I noticed my veteran sitting just a few seats away, laughing with seat-mates after successfully snagging the final remaining outlet to charge her phone.

Time to break the ice, I thought.

I notice your vest says Alton Bay, that’s such a gorgeous part of the state!”

With a great big smile, she replied “Sure is, and we had a great season of fund-raising rides through there”.

Turns out, she’s the Communications Director for the American Legion in the Lakes Region of New Hampshire.

She knows everybody and, being a veteran, she’s got brothers and sisters around the world.

I live in Goffstown, and we do a lot with Liberty House in Manchester.”

She laughed and told me “A couple years ago, one of my military buds called me and said he had a few dozen pairs of boots and asked if I knew where to bring them…and I went straight to Liberty House”.

Right on!

It’s funny, when the resident veterans came out to help me unload and saw them all, they called me The Rolling PX!”

For more than an hour, we shared stories of the people we’ve met and how honored we are to be helping veterans (through our BeachBum Philanthropy family), especially those who’ve struggled to reinsert themselves into society.

In case you’re wondering, here are 5 simple ways that YOU can help homeless veterans in your community!

I’ve never served in the military, but I have a ton of respect for those who’ve put their lives on the line to protect the freedom that we enjoy so deeply.

It’s an honor that I do not take lightly.

And now, I’ve got a new friend who shares that same passion.

If you ever hear of some veterans in need, you reach out to me” she said, just before boarding our next flight.

“I sure will.”  KristinaVetSmall

Knowing our conversation had already sparked this article in my mind, I asked if I could take her picture and was honored when she agreed.  

Her name is Kristina, and she is my favorite stranger from the airport.

Actually, her final act of kindness was aimed at me.

During our conversation, I’d joked that Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups are my favorite candy.

As she reached into her purse, she asked “Have you ever tried their Butterfingers flavor combo?”

Nope, never even heard of it!”

Here, give this a try” she replied as she slid the treat into my hand.

She was right. It ROCKED!

KristinaPBCupSmallAs I boarded the plane (several minuted after she did), I saw she’d been seated near the front and gave my review on the way by: “Two thumbs up!”

Who could YOU meet today?

It doesn’t even have to be a stranger.

I understand that, for many people, that can be uncomfortable.

Somewhere in your extended collection of acquaintances, organizations or associations is an interesting person with whom you could enjoy an amazing conversation.

Who knows? The experience might change your life for the better, give you a new understanding…or even score you a sweet treat.

Are YOU a Big-Hands Encourager?

More than half the class.

I couldn’t believe it.

When asked if people in their lives uttered phrases (imagine a whiny voice here) like:

“Why do you want to do that? Why are you going back to school? You failed the last time. What do you think, you’re better than us?”…more than HALF the class raised their hands.

Sad.

Many of these young people live in cities which have struggled with poverty, drugs and crime for decades. They are doing their best to rise above, to not be statistics, to help show the way for those who have lost hope…and they’ve got people crapping on their dreams.

In this new video, I explain why life resembles an old wooden roller coaster, and how negative people like this can ruin the ride for us all.

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QUICK QUESTION: Think back to your most recent human interaction.

Were you ENCOURAGING?

Did you praise, give hope, support, offer a kind word…or at least smile?

Every day, there are people in our lives who are just trying to make it through another day.

Does this mean we heap undeserved praise, scream puff-ball motivational quotes from the rafters or wear fake pasted smiles all day long?

Not at all.

I believe we need to be real with the world, but we also need to find the tiniest bits of hope and inspire the souls of others to take those sparks into flame.

Someone in your path needs encouragement today.

You could:

make a phone call
send a text or e-mail
write a note
send a card
make a positive comment (or at least a ‘like’) on a social media page
give a hand-shake, hug or high-five
share your favorite memory or characteristic of that person

There are many ways to encourage, many ways to be a Big Hands Person (see video above for the definition).

The world already has enough Big Feet People stomping all over it.

Park your pavement-pounders for the day and focus on where you can add encouragement.

Think of those students.

Half the class.

Encourage.

Big hands.

Thunder or Lightning…Which One are You Bringing?

If you haven’t heard the controversy yet, you’ve probably been binge-watching your favorite Netflix series safely ensconced in your couch pillow fort the last few weeks.

San Francisco 49ers back-up quarterback Colin Kaepernick has decided, as part of voicing his opinion on police-civilian race relations in America, to sit down during the playing of the National Anthem.

While some defend his right to do this by the simple freedoms we all enjoy, others are criticizing him for disrespecting the country which enabled him to make millions of dollars per year. Some have gone so far as to air videos of his jersey being burned in effigy.

 Here are my thoughts, in less than 5 minutes:

“Thunder or Lightning: Colin Kaepernick?”

My bottom-line question: will he bring the lightning…or simply rumble his thunder?

Many people talk…fewer still WALK THEIR TALK.

Which one are YOU doing in the world every day?

When you point your finger at an injustice, do your actions back it up?

The world already has enough thunder. We need more lightning.

Will YOU be the one to help make some happen…today?